Hi ya'll! Today's post is a little different. I had a heart wrenching experience yesterday, and I had to share.
I volunteered to help with the photo event at my step-daughter's school yesterday. She is 11 and going into 6th grade. I was working with another mom I had never met before, and we were chit chatting about the kids' summers. The mom told me that her daughter had been away for two weeks visiting family, and "got really fat over the summer". Errrrrrrt!!! What? WHAT?! I decided to ignore the comment, and she proceeded to tell me how "fat" her daughter is and how she's going to put her on a diet and workout plan. What? WHAT?! I just kind of shook my head and went back to my job perplexed and disgusted.
Jump to a half hour later. Her daughter and her little wolf-pack came and sat behind the tables we were working. There are about 5 other girls sitting around (including my step-daughter) and about 5 moms. The "mom" and yes, I use that word loosely, told her daughter IN FRONT OF EVERYONE how she is going to take her down to the beach and make her get on the body board "to get some exercise". The daughter said she really didn't want to go that day, but really wanted to go the next day. The mom told her daughter she better get her butt on the elliptical when they got home since they weren't going to the beach. AND, "We are putting you on a diet". She told her daughter how fat she was, how she needed to go on a diet and needed to workout. I know if I heard it about 10 other people did too.
I literally came home and teared up. It broke my heart to hear this kind of body shaming to an 11 year old girl about ready to embark on a new milestone in her life - middle school. This is such a tender age with girls (and I'm sure boys too). I watched the little girl's face sink while her mother berated her. I did not say anything to the mom. I wish I would have in hindsight. I think I was just so flabbergasted by this blatant fat shaming that I couldn't even process it until I got home. I'm saying a little prayer that hopefully it won't ruin this beautiful little girl's body image for life.
Body shaming is a serious problem. I hear it ALL the time from brides who go to other bridal boutiques and are fat shamed (or just body shamed) out the door. What is wrong with people? It makes me sick. I am so glad at Dolly Couture we see everyone for the person they are, not by the tape measure numbers. I love when someone tells me they felt beautiful because of us - either in person, on the phone or via email. I want you all to know we see you all equally. We see the beauty inside and out no matter if you are short, tall, thin, large, green, blue or purple. We are a safe haven where you will not be body shamed or judged...ever. Sure we like to sell you beautiful dresses, but what really makes our day is knowing no matter who you are, no matter what shape or size, no matter what sexual orientation you are....we love you all, and you will have a positive experience with us.
Go out and tell someone they are beautiful today. It will make you feel AMAZING.
Happy Friday beauties!