She said what?!

Friday, August 22, 2014 12:03:34 PM America/Los_Angeles

Hi ya'll!  Today's post is a little different.  I had a heart wrenching experience yesterday, and I had to share.

 

I volunteered to help with the photo event at my step-daughter's school yesterday.  She is 11 and going into 6th grade. I was working with another mom I had never met before, and we were chit chatting about the kids' summers.  The mom told me that her daughter had been away for two weeks visiting family, and "got really fat over the summer".  Errrrrrrt!!! What? WHAT?! I decided to ignore the comment, and she proceeded to tell me how "fat" her daughter is and how she's going to put her on a diet and workout plan.  What? WHAT?! I just kind of shook my head and went back to my job perplexed and disgusted.

 

Jump to a half hour later.  Her daughter and her little wolf-pack came and sat behind the tables we were working.  There are about 5 other girls sitting around (including my step-daughter) and about 5 moms.  The "mom" and yes, I use that word loosely, told her daughter IN FRONT OF EVERYONE how she is going to take her down to the beach and make her get on the body board "to get some exercise".  The daughter said she really didn't want to go that day, but really wanted to go the next day.  The mom told her daughter she better get her butt on the elliptical when they got home since they weren't going to the beach. AND, "We are putting you on a diet".  She told her daughter how fat she was, how she needed to go on a diet and needed to workout. I know if I heard it about 10 other people did too. 

 

I literally came home and teared up.  It broke my heart to hear this kind of body shaming to an 11 year old girl about ready to embark on a new milestone in her life - middle school.  This is such a tender age with girls (and I'm sure boys too).  I watched the little girl's face sink while her mother berated her.  I did not say anything to the mom.  I wish I would have in hindsight.  I think I was just so flabbergasted by this blatant fat shaming that I couldn't even process it until I got home.  I'm saying a little prayer that hopefully it won't ruin this beautiful little girl's body image for life.

 

Body shaming is a serious problem.  I hear it ALL the time from brides who go to other bridal boutiques and are fat shamed (or just body shamed) out the door.   What is wrong with people?  It makes me sick.  I am so glad at Dolly Couture we see everyone for the person they are, not by the tape measure numbers.  I love when someone tells me they felt beautiful because of us  - either in person, on the phone or via email.  I want you all to know we see you all equally.  We see the beauty inside and out no matter if you are short, tall, thin, large, green, blue or purple.  We are a safe haven where you will not be body shamed or judged...ever.  Sure we like to sell you beautiful dresses, but what really makes our day is knowing no matter who you are, no matter what shape or size, no matter what sexual orientation you are....we love you all, and you will have a positive experience with us.

 

Go out and tell someone they are beautiful today. It will make you feel AMAZING.

 

Happy Friday beauties!

Posted in Dolly Couture News Featured Brides By Abby Pickett

Fabulous Friday - Holly & Evan

Friday, July 11, 2014 2:33:24 PM America/Los_Angeles


Today's Fab Friday bride is Holly.  I remember the day we received her dress at headquarters...we couldn't stop looking at it, and you've never heard so many oooooo's and ahhhhh's.  I loved the tulle sleeves and the tulle skirt together.  But what really made the dress come alive was the mint belt.  Holly had a vision, and we executed...those custom gowns are so much fun for us! We love seeing how much creativity our brides have. Holly is no exception!  The photos are just gorgous, and I love how everything all came together.


Couple's Name: Holly and Evan






Wedding Date & Location: "April 20, 2013.  Ceremony was at Stone Valley Church in Hickory Corners, PA (dates back to 1796)  and the reception was held at The Front Street Station, in Northumberland, PA.  (The Front Street Station used to be a train station in the 30's, and has since been converted into a restaurant/banquet area, but still maintains the original train cars in the banquet hall area for seating.)"





Theme/Color/Style: "We jokingly referred to our theme as 50 Shades of Mint, since we ended up using so many variations on the color! I'd say our overall theme was vintage but mixed with down-home country -  a lot of handmade, DIY touches. I handmade the programs, the centerpieces, the namecards, etc. It was important for us to stay within budget, and make our wedding affordable and accessible for our guests and wedding party as well. (Our bridesmaid dresses were handmade and purchased from Etsy.)  Our main color was mint, with accents of peach."







Dress: "My dress was custom Dolly Couture, and was drawn by one of your artists from a few pictures I sent it. It was exactly what I had dreamed of, and I couldn't find anything like it anywhere else - I looked! I had only been one place to try on dresses and wasn't really happy. A friend from London had gotten her dress from DC and recommended you. The dress was perfection from the moment I tried it on, it fit like a glove, and I never even had to have it altered- that's how perfect it was. Being pretty short, I loved that I could have all the tulle I wanted but at a shorter length that complimented my height, instead of drowning me in fabric. I also adored the capped tulle sleeves, which I felt really gave the dress something different and made it stand out from other silhouettes."







Favorite moment(s) from the wedding: "Our favorite part of the wedding was having our friends and family so present and involved - a close friend performed the ceremony, another was our photographer, and another the DJ. Everyone banded together to play a part in the day which made it very special for us - -  and even our dogs took part (one was walked down the aisle by my niece, and the other was carried by one of my Bridesmen.) The most memorable and fun parts definitely happened during the reception. Old friends, new friends, college friends, relatives- everyone joined in the dance party and kept the reception hopping until well past our intended finish time. High heels and ties came off, and everyone really cut loose and had a great time- which is exactly what we wanted for our guests!"







Advice for future Dolly Couture brides: "Try not to worry about how things "should be" or "should look" or even what you "should" do! Do what feels right, and what makes you happy. It certainly can be overwhelming, but try to stick to a few key aspects of your wedding that are most important to you and your partner. Think about the things that you will remember 25 years from now or 50 years from now! And most importantly, remember to have fun! It will all go by so quickly and be over before you know it."


Posted in Dolly Couture News Featured Brides By Abby Pickett